Laurie B. Timms
Author and Founder of Trauma Fighters
My friends describe me as brave, and my Dad calls me stubborn. (I prefer tenacious.)
These characteristics have served me well as a Big T trauma survivor. Even with courage, it took me 14 years to finally write the book about my experiences as a survivor of childhood molestation, rape and domestic violence. It took me years to work through layer upon layer of anger and grief so that I could fully step into who I am. Embracing myself has been a lifelong journey.
The underlying root of my break was a repeating dream about the molestation that occurred when I was a young child.
The memory hid for so long under a history of abusive partners and rape, but also my own occasionally volatile behavior. I was a fighter who had no idea what I was swinging at, and now I was mentally breaking.
But I haven’t just been focused on healing all this time.
I’ve spent more years than I’d like to admit in the networking and technology industry, running marketing programs, communications campaigns, public relations, branding, and content.
In fact, I’ve directed communications and marketing strategies for some of the most well-known companies in the technology space, including ghost-writing from a few technology personalities you might have heard of.
Ultimately my favorite part of all these jobs has been the writing
That’s probably because I’ve always wanted to be a writer. I grew up in West Texas, and In the third grade, I started writing a scary book based on a bad dream I had. It was all about criminals poisoning people by injecting toxic substances into over-the-counter medications. Creative, I guess. (!?!)
Years later, as I earned my BA in Public Relations (with a Marketing minor) at Texas Tech, I excelled at journalistic writing on a variety of topics for the school newspaper. Later in my career, I almost always had side projects going, freelance writing for businesses or publications. I especially enjoyed writing about ways to protect the environment.
Now I live in California near the San Francisco Bay Area, in a town very close to Santa Cruz.
I can walk out my door into the mountains, or I can drive five minutes to the beach.
I’m lucky enough to be married to a lovely and talented Englishman, who brought me a sweet and smart stepson when he was 14 (he’s now 23). And I gave birth in 2009 to the best little human on the planet, my daughter Olivia (aka Lux). Besides my favorite activity (writing), I spend time hiking, traveling, skiing, cooking, and reading books.
I’m sharing my story with other multi-trauma survivors so they can become the happy people they are meant to be.
It’s all about learning to minimize the impact of past traumas by working through the anger, guilt, shame, and the worst: self-loathing. It’s about learning to love and take care of yourself. It may sound cliche, but if I can help just one person, I will have found success. But my intention is to help many, many more.