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Articles & Posts
Oh! I Forgot About That and Repeating Familiar Behaviors
What My Parents Taught Me
The Impact of California’s Culture of Flakiness
Does flakiness bug you too?
Breaking the Cycle: Healing from Complex Trauma (Best Self)
At the age of 39, I had a psychotic break.
IG Live with Kim O’hara
What happens when you have a psychotic break? For me, it catalyzed my healing journey. Watch this IG Live with my book coach, Kim O'hara:...
What’s Been Goin’ On, Goin’ On
On My Husband Running for City Council
Self-Advocacy and the #MeOne Movement
Survivor self-advocacy should be a movement.
Recommended Books
The Body Keeps the Score
by Bessel Van Der Kolk
What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma
by Stephanie Foo
Somebody’s Daughter
by Ashley C. Ford
Reasons to Stay Alive
by Matt Haig
Know My Name: A Memoir
by Chanel Miller
The Big Hurt: A Memoir
by Erika Schickel
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
by Lori Gottlieb
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences
by Peter A. Levine, Ann Frederick
Name, Claim & Reframe: Your Path to a Well-Lived Life
by Andrea DeWitt
Ancestor Trouble: A Reckoning and a Reconciliation
by Maud Newton
Credible: Why We Doubt Accusers and Protect Abusers
by Deborah Tuerkheimer
It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
by Mark Wolynn
Apps & Tools
The Anti-Anxiety Notebook
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to Reframe and Reset
Calm App
The #1 App for Meditation and Sleep
Healthy Minds Program
Podcast-style lessons and meditations (& free).
The Cognitive Behavioral Workbook for Anxiety
by William J. Knaus
Headspace App
Meditation & Sleep Made Simple
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Communities
Shelters & Emergency Resources
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National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year, the National Domestic Violence Hotline provides essential tools and support to help survivors of domestic violence so they can live their lives free of abuse.
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Partners Against Violence
Passionate, trained advocates and volunteers providing services to survivors of violent crimes, their families, and the communities in which they live. All of their services are available at no cost to survivors, their significant others, and family members. They support Survivors of sexual assault. After sexual assault, among many other thoughts and feelings, you may be unsure what to do next.
Services:
- Crisis Response: Reach a trained crisis intervention advocate any day, any time on our 24/7 Crisis Hotline.
- Counseling: Specialized, confidential counseling for individuals and groups. Includes Survivor led peer-based counseling, trauma informed and strength-based, as well as support groups for Survivors and families.
- Education: Prevention education and community training to help prevent sexual assault.
- Accompaniment: Have an advocate by your side during medical and legal appointments.
Safeplace
SafePlace is the only approved domestic violence service provider for Thurston County as designated by WA State DSHS, and the only 24-hour Community Sexual Assault Program for Thurston County, accredited by Washington State. Because SafePlace is recognized by the State of Washington as a community-based domestic violence/sexual assault organization, we provide distinctive services and programs for survivors in our community.
Services:
- Confidential emergency shelter for survivors of domestic violence and assistance with basic needs (transportation, food, clothing, personal items)
- Telephone Helpline to connect individuals with resources to meet crisis needs
- Sexual assault in-person response – hospital accompaniment from staff with support during a sexual assault exam and tailored individual advocacy
- Prison sexual assault response
- Survivor support groups, with onsite childcare available
- SafeHome housing program
- Education and prevention, and many others.
YWCA
YWCA reaches 2.3 million women, girls and their families through more than 200 local associations in 45 states and the District of Columbia. We provide critical programs, including domestic and sexual violence services, through 12,500 staff members and 52,000 volunteers.
Services:
- Housing: Offering safe and secure emergency shelter, transitional housing, and long-term housing to victims and survivors of gender-based violence
- Crisis Hotlines: YWCA crisis hotlines and chat lines are vital resources for survivors of sexual and domestic violence.
- Counseling: YWCAs around the country offer adult and child counseling, helping to break the cycle of violence through the provision of trauma-informed services.
- Supervised Visitation/ Safe Exchange: Many YWCAs around the country provide a safe, secure, child-friendly, and culturally-accessible environment for parents to visit or exchange their children when domestic violence, sexual assault, child abuse, or stalking has occurred within the family.
- Other services like financial literacy skills, job/work skills training, community and prevention education and many more.
Rose Andom Center
Support services for survivors of domestic violence in the Denver Metro area.
Description: The Rose Andom Center is a place for domestic violence victims to find the safety, support, and services needed to rebuild their lives and heal their families. Access to representatives of most of these legal services is available within the Rose Andom Center itself, however, victims are not required to report their abuse to law enforcement.
The following services are available to all victims of domestic violence who are in need of information and help in finding resources, safety, and hope for themselves and their children:
- Advocacy
- Children’s Services
- Civil Legal
- Criminal Legal
- Medical
- Self-Sufficiency
- Counseling
Childhood Abuse & Molestation Survivor Resources
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Childhelp
Childhelp exists to meet the physical, emotional, educational and spiritual needs of abused, neglected and at-risk children. Childhelp believes that every child has a unique contribution to make to the world. “We do everything within our power to help children heal and develop self-esteem to reach their God-given potential. We believe unconditional love is the foundation on which all healing begins.”
Services:
- National Child Abuse Hotline
- Foster and adoption services
- Childhelp speak up be safe: This is an evidence-based curriculum program with developmentally appropriate lessons for pre-kindergarten through 12th grade to help students prevent, interrupt, and speak up about various types of child abuse—physical, emotional, sexual, neglect, bullying, and cyber abuse.
- Short-term residential therapeutic programs: Childhelp’s California Short-Term Residential Therapeutic Program, (formerly known as Group Homes) seek to heal children in California’s child welfare system by providing comprehensive treatment in stable, nurturing, safe environments.
- Advocacy centers
Stop It Now!
Stop It Now! was founded by Fran Henry, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse who learned first-hand that standard approaches to keeping children safe from child sexual abuse at that time did not respond to the complex relationships surrounding most abuse. Programs:
- Help Services: Provides free and confidential direct support and information to individuals with questions or concerns about child sexual abuse.
- Prevention Education: Develops, assesses and distributes educational materials through our website, publications, trainings, events and media campaigns.
- Technical Assistance and Training (circles of safety): Provides consulting and brings Circles of Safety training services to professionals, youth-serving organizations, coalitions, and community-based programs on strategies, policies and practices for preventing child sexual abuse.
- Prevention Advocacy: Advocates for the sexual abuse of children to be addressed as a public health priority, encourages increased investment in a full range of prevention strategies, and provides evidence-based information to media, policymakers and advocacy groups.
Communities
After Silence Community
After Silence is designed to help victims become survivors, and communicate in the recovery of sexual violence. Their mission is to support, empower, validate, and educate survivors, as well as their families and supporters. The core of their organization is a support group, message board, and chat room where victims and survivors come together online in a mutually supportive and safe environment.